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If you're reading
this, the chances are you are in one of two
categories. Either you are someone who has already
discovered the benefits and pleasures of a more
clothes-free way of living, but you have noticed
that not many young adults seem to have made the
same discovery. Or else you are a young adult who
has little or no experience with clothes-freedom,
and you wonder why some people make such a big
deal out of something that may not seem all that
appealing.
There are
probably many different reasons that young adults
don't seem interested in trying social nudity -
just as there are many different reasons that
anyone might have for a reluctance to try it.
Almost as many different reasons as there are
people. But they do tend to fall into certain
typical categories. And some of these categories
seem to apply especially to young adults.
So we're going to
try to list as many of the typical reasons as
possible. And for each reason, we'll try to
suggest why the reason need not by an
insurmountable deterrent - and simple steps that
anyone can take to overcome the obstacle if he/she
wishes to.
But first let's
address something which is probably is not
a real issue. Namely, there isn't anything
inherent about being in the 18-30 age range that
makes a person averse to nudity. With younger
teenagers (13 to 17) there may well be. These are
difficult times of adjusting to both major changes
in one's body as well as taking major steps
towards independence from one's parents.
Young adults,
however, should be well on their way to putting
such issues behind them. They are considered
"adults" because they have in fact achieved enough
maturity to deal more rationally than emotionally
with the problems of adolescence. And this
includes being able to deal with nudity.
There are plenty
of examples which show that young people are quite
able to deal with nudity and enjoy it under
appropriate circumstances. Just look at the
popularity of mass nude runs (sometimes known as
"streaking") at colleges and universities - for
example the University of Michigan "Naked Mile".
And an even bigger example is the Burning Man
Festival.
Of course, in
both of those cases, the percentage of people who
actually take part in the nudity is small. But the
same is true for people of any age in the general
population. Social nudity in some form or another
is still decidedly a minority interest. However,
there probably is little difference by age group
as to the relative size of the minority. For
instance, about 500 to 1000 students participated
in the latest "Naked Mile" run (1998), and this is
1% to 2% of the total enrollment at Michigan
(about 50,000). These percentages are not very
different from the overall percentage of people
who participate in social nudity at home and
certain public areas like clothing-optional
beaches. (The percentage of people who enjoy
nudity under more private conditions is probably
much higher.)
So with that out
of the way, let's look at some of the reasons that
young adults in particular may be
discouraged from trying social nudity.
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Young people prefer to associate with others
near their own age, yet they find few people of
their age involved in clothes-free activities.
It is true
that most participants in organized
nudist/naturist activities are over 30 - for
all of the reasons listed here. Unfortunately,
this is a self-reinforcing, self-perpetuating
phenomenon, if young people stay away from
social nudity simply because they don't
immediately find others about their age. It
may be necessary to find others one person at
a time, and form new social groups.
Fortunately, there are many new tools now
available on the Internet to find other people
in one's own area with similar interests,
things like message forums, mailing lists,
chat systems, and Web site "guest books".
There are now a few Web sites specifically set
up to assist young people with an interest in
social nudity to make contact.
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Young people just aren't interested in the
sedate, "family-oriented" lifestyle promoted at
many nudist clubs and resorts.
Young people
who visit traditional nudist clubs and resorts
often find them boring. This is really just a
corollary of the fact most of the membership
at such places is considerably older. Older
people will naturally shape the available
activities into what is most appealing to
themselves rather than what younger people
would like. The solution is for young people
to organize groups and activities according to
their own tastes. Again, it's necessary to use
other avenues to locate young people
interested in social nudity. In point of fact,
the membership of traditional nudist clubs and
resorts is only a small percentage - perhaps
1% to 2% - of the population which is
interested in social nudity. This latter group
is much larger, but people in it are much
harder to find with a map or directory.
However, once you find others interested in
social nudity, you can get together for
activities such as visiting clothing-optional
beaches, hot springs, and the like - or just
parties at someone's home. A little research
will also show that there are various existing
groups which combine social nudity with active
sports like volleyball, running, canoeing, and
hiking. You'll find a higher proportion of
young folks in groups like this.
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Young people, especially those who don't have an
ongoing relationship, feel a higher degree of
sexual tension that is stimulated by nudity.
There may be
no quick fix for this. You have to be very
clear that organized social nudity is not a
form of sexual entertainment. Its purpose is
something altogether different from the
release of sexual tension. To deal with that,
there isn't any good alternative to forming
the kind of special relationship with another
person (or persons) that is right for each
individual. That should be the first goal:
work on your own social life. Then you
will find that social nudity really is free
from sexual tension. But single people can
definitely enjoy social nudity - as long as
they pursue other appropriate outlets for
their sexual needs. Obviously, it will help if
one can find a partner who shares one's
interest in social nudity. But the truth is
that it's much easier to find an appropriate
partner in the much wider world outside of
organized social nudity.
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Teenagers going through puberty are usually
uncomfortable with their bodies. This discomfort
often tends to persist into the young adult
years.
A young adult
is, by definition, more mature than a
teenager. The best advice one can give to
anyone over 18 who still has hang-ups about
how his/her body looks is: get over it!
There really isn't anything awful or gross or
disgusting or "offensive" about how a naked
body looks. We all have one. It's absurd to
be, unlike any other animal, unable to stand
the sight of a normal member of one's species.
Everyone needs to learn "body acceptance",
because that is part of self-acceptance, which
is a tremendously important part of growing
up. Becoming involved with social nudity, in
fact, almost always helps enormously with
achieving body acceptance. The first steps can
be hard - but then it gets drastically easier.
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There is a strong pressure on young people to
have "beautiful" or "attractive" bodies, but
going naked lets everyone see the imperfections
in one's body.
To the extent
that physical attractiveness plays a role in
mate selection, there is going to be such a
pressure. But does being naked actually reveal
that much more of one's body than happens with
a typical swimsuit? No, except (perhaps) for
the genitals the essential details are pretty
obvious. Assuming that you do as much as is
reasonably necessary (in your opinion) to be
in good physical shape, your body is just fine
the way it is naturally. And as a young
person, your body is probably as "attractive"
as it ever will be, so appreciate it at its
best! Genetically speaking, almost no one
actually has the shape of the supermodels
heavily promoted by the media and advertising.
The sooner you realize this and adopt
realistic expectations about your own body's
appearance, and that of actual or potential
mates, the happier you will be. That's what
body acceptance is all about.
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Young people are more susceptible to peer
pressure, and traditional nudist/naturist
activities are not socially "acceptable" in many
circles.
This is
another holdover from the teenage years, when
peer pressure is, generally, far too
important. If the concept of "cool" implies
some peer-generated standard of how you
have to be, it's a bad idea. It's time to
get over this as well. Most people eventually
realize it isn't necessary to wear the same
sort and styles of clothes as everyone else.
Take it further, and you realize it isn't
necessary to wear clothes at all (in an
appropriate environment). Ask yourself: whose
life is it, anyway? You only get one chance at
it, so do it the way you want, not the
way "everyone else" seems to think necessary -
if you believe you have sound reasons for the
difference. Keep in mind Thoreau's remark: "If
a man does not keep pace with his companions,
perhaps it is because he hears a different
drummer. Let him step to the music which he
hears, however measured or far away."
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Students and young people in relatively
low-paying jobs have little money to spend on
travel and club fees.
Since
traditional nudist clubs and resorts aren't
necessarily the best places for young people
to enjoy social nudity anyway, what difference
does it make? The basic fact is that enjoying
nudity is one of the least expensive forms of
fun there is - you actually save money that
doesn't have to be spent on unnecessary
"status" clothing and laundry. You don't have
to go any farther than your own home or
apartment to enjoy social nudity. Although
most people are not so fortunate as to live
close to established clothing-optional
beaches, there are still many possibilities
for nude hiking and skinny-dipping in remote
areas on public lands if you're in shape to
visit more out of the way places.
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Young men who lack a willing female companion
are discouraged from visiting some nudist clubs
and resorts alone.
This is true
in some cases. But remember what we've been
saying all along - established clubs and
resorts represent just a small fraction of
people interested in social nudity. Explore
all the other alternatives. Consider forming
your own club. You don't have to own land -
most nudist/naturist clubs are "non-landed".
Often they're just groups of friends, not
formally incorporated as a club. Their
activities include recreation on public lands,
get-togethers at members' homes, and
(occasionally) even visiting landed clubs.
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Young people lack experience in the
practicalities of organizing social clubs and
events for themselves.
There's so
much to learn in life, we're all dead before
we learn even a fraction of it. But there's no
reason to be afraid of learning new things
that are useful to us. Young people are
usually busy learning the details of a
profession, how to manage finances, perhaps
how to take care of small children. All of
these things are a lot more complex than
organizing a social club.
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Students with a heavy course load, and perhaps a
part-time job, have little time for planned
social events. Young people getting started in a
career are expected to work long hours. There
just isn't much time for a social life,
especially one that is not part of "the beaten
path" in mainstream society.
It doesn't
get any easier until you're ready to retire or
(at least) until your own children leave home.
No matter how busy you feel right now, the
more responsibilities you acquire over the
years (on the job or around the house) the
less "free" time you're going to have. The
truth is, if you're under 30, the chances are
that you have more time to enjoy now than you
will later. So enjoy it now, while you can.
The whole secret of managing time is in
setting priorities. Some amount and type of
recreation should be a priority. The question
is: will it be with clothes, or without.
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Colleges and universities are reluctant to allow
campus naturist organizations to receive
official sponsorship out of concern for problems
with sexual harassment or nudity involving
students under 18 years old.
This problem,
of course, arises only for young people still
in an educational institution, if they want to
use any campus facilities for their organizing
and meetings. Keep in mind that sexual
harassment and "underage" nudity are
legitimate concerns of school administrators,
especially in these politically correct and
sexually paranoid times. But the objections
can be overcome in most "reasonable" schools.
The would-be organizer of a campus
clothing-optional club or event needs to take
on the burden of educating himself/herself
about the issues and including appropriate
safeguards in the plans. It shouldn't be a big
deal, as long as the problems are understood.
Given this understanding, it should be
possible to convince the necessary people that
social nudity is not a hazardous
activity and is as deserving of support as any
other activity. It's just necessary to be
willing to stand up for something you believe
in, even though it is widely misunderstood to
have much less merit than it really does. If
you can get by that problem, a campus
environment is actually a great one for
clothing-optional activities: It's easy to get
the word out to people who may be interested,
plenty of meeting and recreational facilities
are potentially available, and usually the
community is more open-minded and
free-thinking than is normally the case in
society at large.
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